The modern gentlemen is a transient one, indeed there is something powerful and mysterious about a soundly put-together man always on the go. Before it was only a select few who could keep up the momentum, but today it has become not only the norm, but the expected. This has our modern-day man constantly taken out of his element, and that is where I want to begin our series of this particular column.
There are a variety of definitions for the word, “element” but the one I particularly like says it is “one of these substances considered as a person’s or animal’s natural environment”.
This has me wondering what men perceive is their natural environment, or recognize and accept to be their element, and how to gracefully adjust when taken out of it, or how to recreate it when circumstances or environments change.
And if you don’t like the word graceful, let’s go with agile, fluent, or nubile, as they sound sexier.
A gentleman has a heightened look about him, but is still very much human, and humans do not like being taken out of their element (more on that later) and they do not like change.
Change both gives and takes; though we focus on the latter more often than not, it is a strange relationship, and if we are honest I’m sure we’ll find that we hide or run from her more than even think of facing her head-on. She comes to break, to tear, to mend, and to save, and sadly, most men do not keep up with her pace.
We’re here to help with this. We’re here to assist in the transition of becoming, taking the role of creator and carving out the life, image, person you’ve admired but haven’t yet taken the time, and work, to become.
Yes, blood and sweat will be involved.
Webster defines “transition” as: “passage from one state, stage, subject, or place to another : change b : a movement, development, or evolution from one form, stage, or style to another
2 a : a musical modulation b : a musical passage leading from one section of a piece to another3 : an abrupt change in energy state or level usually accompanied by loss or gain of a single quantum of energy.”
Here we see such words as “evolution,” “form,” “musical,” and “energy.” Yet I’m sure the words our eyes settle on and our heads would nod at are the words “abrupt” and “loss.” Indeed there is an unsettling perhaps because we have too early, or for too little, settled. Perhaps the universe, god, or our own energy and momentum, is refusing to live in the state we have found comfort in for too long. Such comfort, such settling is a standstill and that is in direct opposition to the very nature of life, for life is constant in but one thing: change.
We fight against her because we think we know better; we wish to assert our superiority as evolved individuals…but wait, in just that statement we have given value to what it is we are fighting against. Without evolution of thought, evolution of manner, the progression of culture, the adapting of one’s brute self to reason, where would we, as a race, be?
Change forces us to stop laying gifts at our own feet and demands nothing less than the center of our world, and in turn, makes our world larger. This gentleman, Our gentleman knows how to adapt to this large world, meet it with grace, confidence, and style.
— Chase Shellee